jbwt77
OH - Ohio Centering Network
Posts: 37 
I work at a: Healthcare Facility
I am interested in Centering because: I feel it is the best way to get pregnancy care! Especially seeing how teens are with the model!
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Post by jbwt77 on Dec 29, 2015 11:17:32 GMT -5
Was hoping I could get some sites to share what activities etc they do in Session 4 with domestic violence
thanks!
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jbwt77
OH - Ohio Centering Network
Posts: 37
I work at a: Healthcare Facility
I am interested in Centering because: I feel it is the best way to get pregnancy care! Especially seeing how teens are with the model!
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Post by jbwt77 on Dec 29, 2015 11:37:34 GMT -5
Also does anyone else excuse the support people to discuss the DV subject in case there were to be an issue within the group?
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Post by Margie on Jan 4, 2016 10:17:19 GMT -5
It's been a little while since I have actually facilitated a series of Centering groups, but from talking with sites, I know that this is often a challenging topic and there are as many options for discussing it as there are people.
Here are some thoughts remembering that the theme for session 4 is relationships and keeping myself safe. The overall goals for Domestic Violence are to learn what they know, facilitate education on the subject and provide resources.
1. Agree/Disagree statements - These seem to work well to spring discussion. I know someone who feels so strongly about covering all of them that she keeps them under her chair after the 4th session and pulls them out when she has a few spare moments in one of the other groups.
2. DV Cards usually used for Agree/Disagree - these can be given to smaller groups of 2 or 3 so they can discuss their topic and then report to the group at large - it is important to circulate and keep an eye on each small group..
3. Assemble the cycle of violence cards in small groups and bring the discussion back to big group.
4. Of course the Dear Centering activity once again in small groups then report back.
5. Bring up a (fictitious)friend that you or co-facilitator might be concerned about, noting that the person doesn't want to leave and asking the group to make suggestions to pass on for keeping her safe.
6. Another site does a craft - such making fleece baby blankets during the discussion.
7. Simply open the discussion if the group feels right.
8. Partners participate well in this discussion usually, and can learn a great deal themselves.
9.If possible, having a social worker or mental health counselor facilitate this component can be helpful - remember that it is important to have guests facilitate not lecture.
I hope that this is a helpful beginning thank you for the question.
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stjoesobnavigator
PA - Pennsylvania Centering Consortium
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My job role is: Healthcare Provider
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Post by stjoesobnavigator on Jan 6, 2016 10:21:12 GMT -5
This is one of my favorites, & it is very well-received. We actually bring in a social worker/community educator to help us facilitate this discussion. We allow support people to attend & have 2 different activities for this topic.
1. Healthy Relationships Building Block activity:
- Break into small groups & give each group a set of 10 blocks (like baby/child building blocks). Each block has a relationship quality written on it; such as love, trust, honesty, respect, communication, compromise, humor, individuality, popularity, looks.
- They are instructed to work together to build a pyramid resembling a healthy relationship; placing the 4 most important qualities on the bottom, then the 3 most important, then 2, then the least important on top.
- We have a great discussion as to who placed what where & why.
- We then ask each team to take out the one block that they feel is THE most important quality in a healthy relationship. Some pyramids fall, some stay intact, others have group members trying to hold it together to prevent from falling. We point that out that some relationships can stay together without that missing piece, but it obviously doesnt appear to be as strong. Others fall apart, & others try to "hold it together" to make it work.
2. Domestic Violence Continuum activity:
- We have about 10 cards/signs (about 12"x24") that each have a relationship action on them; such as "Texts 50-100 times per day", "Tells me not to wear that skirt because other guys will look at me", "Tells me he doesn't want me hanging out with that friend", "Stands in front of a doorway to block me", "Throws objects at the wall in anger", "Pushes/shoves/slaps me", "Talks me into sexual activities I'm not comfortable with." (You could come up with your own, but these are some of the ones that are on our cards).
- They work together by talking it out which is the least severe to the most severe & align themsleves into the contnuum
We talk a lot about reasons one might stay in an unhealthy or abusive relationship (kids, health insurance, financially unable to leave, don't know where else to go, etc). And we also provide them with community resources & shelters available for DV victims.
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jbwt77
OH - Ohio Centering Network
Posts: 37
I work at a: Healthcare Facility
I am interested in Centering because: I feel it is the best way to get pregnancy care! Especially seeing how teens are with the model!
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Post by jbwt77 on Jan 6, 2016 12:39:00 GMT -5
thank you all for the fabulous answers!!!
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Post by Andrea CCFT on Feb 27, 2016 15:46:19 GMT -5
It's been a little while since I have actually facilitated a series of Centering groups, but from talking with sites, I know that this is often a challenging topic and there are as many options for discussing it as there are people. Here are some thoughts remembering that the theme for session 4 is relationships and keeping myself safe. The overall goals for Domestic Violence are to learn what they know, facilitate education on the subject and provide resources. 1. Agree/Disagree statements - These seem to work well to spring discussion. I know someone who feels so strongly about covering all of them that she keeps them under her chair after the 4th session and pulls them out when she has a few spare moments in one of the other groups. 2. DV Cards usually used for Agree/Disagree - these can be given to smaller groups of 2 or 3 so they can discuss their topic and then report to the group at large - it is important to circulate and keep an eye on each small group.. 3. Assemble the cycle of violence cards in small groups and bring the discussion back to big group. 4. Of course the Dear Centering activity once again in small groups then report back. 5. Bring up a (fictitious)friend that you or co-facilitator might be concerned about, noting that the person doesn't want to leave and asking the group to make suggestions to pass on for keeping her safe. 6. Another site does a craft - such making fleece baby blankets during the discussion. 7. Simply open the discussion if the group feels right. 8. Partners participate well in this discussion usually, and can learn a great deal themselves. 9.If possible, having a social worker or mental health counselor facilitate this component can be helpful - remember that it is important to have guests facilitate not lecture. I hope that this is a helpful beginning thank you for the question. |
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Post by Andrea CCFT on Feb 27, 2016 15:47:54 GMT -5
We played a short video before we disscussed DV using the agree disagree cards. We also had a guest speaker for a local womens safe haven place to share about her facility and other communitiy connections to help women in DV situations.
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Post by Rachel L on Feb 26, 2019 12:34:39 GMT -5
Do sites run into any issues with partners coming to the DV discussion, or do most sites feel pretty comfortable with partners involved in that discussion? We have gone back and forth in this - we have seen really good discussions happen with partners in a group and we also have had the situation where a partner was in the group and we later found out it was an abusive relationship. Any feedback sites have would be wonderful!
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Post by Andrea CCFT on Feb 28, 2019 19:51:09 GMT -5
Was hoping I could get some sites to share what activities etc they do in Session 4 with domestic violence thanks! We start with Wipe off boards and ask every one to write three things that are important in a Healthy relationships. After we go around the circle and have everyone read from their boards and give their definition we then ask: What happens when these things are not present? The conversation always steers itself to Domestic violence. Then we ask about safe places in our city and if any knows how to tell a friend or someone being abused how to form a plan. We always hand out information and phone #'s of where to seek local help for persons who may need shelter from abuse. In the past we had our local safe house come in but I think patients open up more when we do it this way. |
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Post by kladuke on Mar 11, 2019 15:18:17 GMT -5
Do sites run into any issues with partners coming to the DV discussion, or do most sites feel pretty comfortable with partners involved in that discussion? We have gone back and forth in this - we have seen really good discussions happen with partners in a group and we also have had the situation where a partner was in the group and we later found out it was an abusive relationship. Any feedback sites have would be wonderful! We make it very clear from the very beginning that session 4 is "moms only" (mentioning it at scheduling, and at sessions 1,2 and 3) as we will be discussing 'sensitive topics'. I have had support people come, but I usually just tell them very gently when they arrive that this is a "moms only" session, and they are more than welcome to stay for the tummy check, but they'll have to leave after. I have yet to have anyone react poorly. I want to really make sure as the co-facilitator that I do not behave like they have done anything wrong by coming, I again just gently encourage them to leave. We have made some concessions when the support person is the patients mom, sister, best friend ect.. |
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